A Biblical Illustration of the Principle of Courtship

From the Book of Ruth

by Michael R. Thornton

Introduction. The modern practice of dating is not only unbiblical but also unhealthy to the spiritual, emotional and physical well-being of our children. God's alternative is courtship. The following outline is not exhaustive but is designed to provoke additional study of this important subject.

I. The Prerequisites to Courtship

A. A Demonstration of a oneness of spirit with parents. 1:14

B. A Deepening of fellowship with God. 1:16,17

C. A Dedication to a ministry spirit. 1:19-2:3

D. A Display of Godly character.

1. Respectful actions toward others. 2:7a , 11

2. Demonstrating a good work ethic. 2:7b

3. Diligence, commitment, kindness. 2:18

II. The Procedures of Courtship

A. Authorization from the parents. 3:1

1. Readiness for marriage.

2. Timing.

B. Arrangements by the parents. 3:2-4

C. An Assurance of God's providence. 3:5, 6, 18

D. An Admonishment to virtue. 3:14

E. An Affirmation required.

1. By the woman. 3:9

2. By the man.

a. Example of refusal. 4:5,6

b. Example of acceptance. 4:10

III. The Purposes of Courtship

A. The fulfillment of God's plan. 4:10

A marriage made in heaven.

B. The furtherance of God's kingdom purpose. 4:15a

A restorer of life.

C. The future of God's people.

1. A sustainer in old age. 4:15b

2. A seed to Messiah. 4:18-22